Real ink, real paper, written slowly — for the moment you're in.
Commission your letter → How it worksThere is something only ink on paper, in a handwriting that took its time, in an envelope addressed by hand and sealed with wax, can do.
It can convince you that someone saw you. That someone slowed down for you. That you were worth a quiet afternoon and a real pen.
I write letters to women who have been holding it together for everyone. I read what they tell me. I sit with it. And I write back, by hand, on cotton stationery — words about who they are and who they are becoming. The letter arrives at their door two or three weeks later. They keep it on the dresser. They return to it on the days that need it.
This is what I do. This is the whole thing.
A short, private intake. Five questions.
I sit with what you sent. I think about you. I write the final letter by hand, with a fountain pen.
Sealed in wax. Addressed by hand. A real stamp. Mailed to your door within two to three weeks.
You read it the day it arrives. You return to it on the days that need it.
One custom handwritten letter, written from your intake. Two to three pages on cotton paper, sealed in wax, mailed within three weeks.
Commission →Three letters, six weeks apart. A short check-in before letters two and three so I'm writing to where you actually are. Save $44.
Commission →Written for another woman in your life, your son, your sister, your mother, your daughter, a friend. Mailed directly to them.
Send a gift →One letter each month, with quarterly re-intake. Limited to ten women per cohort. By application.
All letters include free shipping anywhere in the US or Canada.
My name is Oyinkansola. I am the founder of Emotions City and EQ House of Africa — work built on the idea that emotional intelligence is not a soft skill but a survival skill, and that the women in our lives have been carrying too much for too long without anyone slowing down to put it into words.
I wrote my first letter to a friend leaving a marriage. I wrote the second to a cousin who had been the strong one in her family for thirty years. I wrote the third because three women I had never met asked me if I would.
I do not know your story yet, but I know enough to know that you have been carrying something. I write letters to the women carrying things. I write the way I would write to my own sister.
— OyinkansolaWhat you share with me is read by me only. Never quoted. Never shared. Never reused. The privacy of these letters is the foundation of the whole work.
This is encouragement and witness, not clinical care.
I write twenty letters a month. There is a waitlist. Your letter takes the time it takes — two to three weeks from intake to mailbox. Never rushed, always real.
Two to three pages of handwriting on cotton stationery. Long enough to feel like you got something, short enough that the writing stays alive on every line.
Yes — gently, and only the things you tell me you want named. The intake form has a question for what you'd rather I leave out, and I take that seriously.
I'll write a Gift Letter to anyone you tell me about, but I won't write something that bypasses someone's wishes. If you and the recipient are estranged, write me a note about that.
No. I write every letter by hand, with a fountain pen, on cotton paper. That is the whole product. The handwriting on the page is mine.
Refunds are available within 48 hours of submitting your intake. Once I've started writing, refunds are no longer available — but if a letter genuinely missed you, write to me and I'll write you another, no charge.
Anywhere with a postal address. International mailing adds a few days. If your address changes during a Trio or Circle series, write to me at ed@eqhouseofafrica.com.
Tell me about you. The next twenty letters are open.
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